Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Housework

You know it is time to do housework when you run out of tupperware for bowls. That means all the dishes are dirty and that now all the tupperware is dirty. Guess it is either time to go out and buy some more tupperware or else it is time to wash the dishes.

This is usually how I gauge time or necessity of housework. IF IT WILL SOON BE TIME FOR DINNER AND THERE ISN'T ANYTHING TO COOK IN OR EAT OFF OF. (note to self wash the dishes).

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Boss Man

I got this really cool boss at work. They fired my last boss about 4 months ago and what a relief because he was the biggest jerk that I have ever met. Anyways back to the cool guy, he likes Family Guy, he has a very dry sense of humor and almost never takes anything seriously at work. Ok he does take things seriously at work but in a kind of way that my personality understands and I can cope with.

I think that I honestly have a sleeping disorder, if that is what insomnia is. I don't know what it is I just don't sleep well at night, ever. So he keeps suggesting to me that I try some sleeping pills, like doctor medicated Ambient or something of that nature. So I was writing SOP's all day yesterday and at about 2:30 in the afternoon he just happens to walk by my office when I had my head on my desk thinking about the best way to state a procedure so that the rest of the company can understand it. He says to one of his other managers, "I told him he had to get some sleeping pills but instead he just decides to sleep at work." Of course he was joking, and when he noticed that I wasn't asleep he directed his attention to me and said "You should at least partially shut your office door if you are going to sleep at work." My nonchalant response was "If I shut it there is no possibility of you finding me in here sleeping." He just laughed at that and said if you go Paul then I am going also. It really is nice to have a boss that is easy to get along with and also appreciates the things that I am doing at work.

His favorite saying to us, his managers, is "Don't sweat the things you have no control over" he says that to us because over the last 4 months our Operations department has taken at least a 50% reduction in workforce. While other departments in the company feel it necessary to hire more people because there lazy employees can't multitask. It is very frustrating but not so bad when at least our own boss understands the necessity of good hard workers that are willing to do anything at the plant to help the company succeed. He just keeps telling us that someday they will get there reward and someone with some balls will open their eyes and realize who is really bringing the company down.

It is also fun to work at a plant that a friend once called the "Willy Wonka Factory" everyday is a new day and everyday brings new challenges and new accomplishments. To all those that don't enjoy there jobs, don't look for anything right now just stick it out and enjoy what you and "Don't sweat the things you have no control over".

Monday, November 3, 2008

How many days?

I bought tickets to our trip to Disneyland last night, we are going on December 19-22 (I think). It is a planned trip of Michael and his soon to be wife, Becca. We were invited a few weeks or months ago. We are really looking forward to this trip. We haven't ever been able to take our kids anywhere fun, other than the public swimming pool (and I am still convinced that if they don't go anywhere else they might never know what they are missing).

Anyways Michael and Becca invited me a while back and I said sure works going good I've got some vacation time saved up, why not? They, Mike and Becca, are pretty regulars at Disneyland but it has been many many years since I have been and I thought what the heck, it will probably be tons of fun with them and the two kids. So this was our original plan just the 5 of us. Well someone got this great idea, why don't we invite Mom and Dad, then when the kids get tired the "Grandparents" can take them back to the hotel and the "adults" can stay and enjoy some more fun later in the evening. So our trip grew to 7. Now what about Eric, the only other child living at home (oh no I just had a terrible thought, WHEN DOES DANIEL COME HOME FROM PANAMA? I gotta call my mom tomorrow and confirm that either he won't be home yet or we won't be missing him come home while we are at Disneyland) so Eric is coming along also. Like I always say the more the merrier that makes a total of 8.

But it only gets better, and I know that this is going to sound really strange and maybe messed up because of how life has been going lately. I mentioned our trip to Karolain, yes the wife that is living on her own. No things aren't that great yet, but I guess after all is said and done you gotta keep trying wherever and whenever you can to make things right. Of course she is interested in going to Disneyland, and yes she says under the pretext of she has a 5 and a 2 year old, who wouldn't want to go. I am not saying that I had any alterior motives for asking her to go, yes after all is said and done I do and I will state it to anyone that I don't want to go through what we are going through. Would I sacrifice a good time with the kids and family to maybe make something good happen in our little family. If something good happens then hurray for it, if nothing does happen and we still can't be a family then I will just have to keep trying harder and keep doing everything to once again have my family back.

Anyways the clan is up to 9 now all said and done, two cars was probably going to have to happen anyways, we were always going to get two hotel rooms (who wants to live through the nightmare of sharing a hotel room with their parents - Eric you are the one that is going to have to sacrifice one for the team this time).

So back to the matter at hand I bought the tickets last night and don't think I am getting the excitement out of the kids that I was expecting. I think tomorrow I might have to make one of those calendars that counts backwards until the day something really special happens. Because it must only by like less then 50 days until we finally make it to Disneyland. We will have fun with those that wanna have fun and the rest are just going to have to make due with what they got.

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Moving Forward

I figured out recently that there really are few things that you can control in this life. I was reading my older sister Sarah's blog this evening and realized that kids get to be even one of those things that aren't controllable. Really the only darn thing that can be controlled in this life is your own personal life. It really does feel good to be heading in the right direction again. I had a conversation with a friend earlier this week in where I realized that a testimony is not a diminishing thing, rather what happens is the fact that we veer away from our own testimonies and maybe don't wanna believe what we know is true. Sadly even thinking that maybe it isn't convenient to believe it at the time. This turned out being a very sad realization and also maybe about 9 months late. Another important thing that was learned this week is the importance of forgiveness, I always thought that I was a pretty forgiving guy but over the last few months have realized that I am not and it is a character flaw that has been causing lots of problems lately. Yes it is hard but it is actually pretty easy compared to some of the consequences of not forgiving and holding onto things for way to long.

Yes we are all human, we all make mistakes, and there really aren't worse mistakes than others (ok murder probably the only one that I can think of now), all mistakes are bad and each one has its way of causing problems.

This friend that I chatted with reminded me once again, as my mother did so long ago and my older sister, that one really can't move forward at all without first making their own life correct and take the 180 degree turn. So in conclusion just be right with yourself and the man upstairs and then try your darndest to make things right that have gone wrong with others, but it really won't and can't work without first getting your person in order then having the help of the man upstairs to guide in the right direction.

This might make sense to some and maybe not to other but I really just needed to put some of these things down on paper. I would also like to thank any prayers or fasting that there have been for this little family and I will keep fighting for it every waking hour and with the help of the man upstairs.

Thanks

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Disappointment

So we had this really great day planned today, the kids and I. I have been waiting for a couple of weeks to go this Halloween party that my cousin Andrea was throwing. I even got home from work early so that we could leave by 4 and not get there to late, the party started at 4 but she lives in Eagle Mountain and it is a little drive out there. But I had received another email from an aunt saying that she wasn't going to be able to leave Provo until 4:30-ish and so I didn't feel to bad getting there a little late. I imagined that lots of cousins were going to be there and all three of us were really looking forward to the fun parties that Andrea throws. So it took a little longer to get there because the map that I immediately downloaded from Mapquest.com when i got home was way to zoomed in and only gave me the name of the streets immediately surrounding her house, and it has been almost 2 1/2 years since I have been out to her house. No worries we made it to her house by 4:45. When we drove up things seemed a little strange because there were no cars in the driveway other than a work truck. I didn't think much of it maybe by some miracle we arrived first, not really thinking straight or logically at this point. Ariana knocked on the door and Brian, Andrea's husband, answered the door with two little munchkins dressed up for the Halloween party. He seemed a little bit surprised and so did I because nobody was there. He informed me that they had already had a great party, I instantly thought to myself how in 45 minutes did you have a great party. He then went on to say the great party had been the day before. In all my excitement or in all my scatter braininess I hadn't noticed that the date on the email invitation was for the Wednesday the 29th of October. Never in my life have I been more embarrassed, luckily only Brian was home and he didn't seem to bothered by the fact that we had showed up 24 hours late for their Halloween party.

Is life just difficult or am I just losing my mind. I really had no clue when we got there that we were 24 hours late and I felt so bad for my kids they had been wanting to go to that party all week to see family and have some Halloween fun. I will not let that happen again, maybe that is why I just stay cooped up in my house all the time, it's a lot harder to let your kids down when you never leave the living room.

We'll definitely get them next time.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Love you Dad

I had a very revealing conversation this evening. It as amazing how many things get suppressed over a lifetime of memories and how many subjective thoughts a person can have. I realized tonight that I don't sleep very well when my father goes on his "vacations" halfway across the world. I really fear that day when he doesn't come back, it has to be hard to lose your best friend. I fear and worry every day that he is gone and am very hesitant to answer the phone when my mother calls and he is on one of his trips. I have a fear of this, literally it keeps me from sleeping during the month or weeks depending on how long his trip might be. If there is one person that I can always count on it's my father, he really does understand everything that we go through. Yes he has been called hard to get along with even hard to understand before, but I wouldn't change anything in the world to have him here to help me on a daily basis. I know that you don't read these things very often Dad but I just wanted to say that I love you and appreciate all you do for your family and all you are doing to help me with mine. Thanks and I love you.

Not that my lifetime is even that long though, only a short 28 years, but tonight I started remembering things that had been pushed so far down into the dark recesses of the mind and it didn't take that much coxing to get them to come back out. Watch out those things and feelings never go away. Everything is out there now and it does feel good don't try and suppress feeling and let it all hang out, what's the worst that can happen?

Friday, October 3, 2008

Cat Nap

I was reading some blogs of friends today and I realized something. At work there are many different types of people. Those with the doors wide open, come and go as you please style. Those that situate their offices so that they can see everyone's faces as soon as they are in the door. Then there are the type of people that put their desks in a manner that you can't even see their faces when you walk by their door. What is the deal with people why is it that people are so secretive. Do you really think that your job is so important to the company that you have to hide everything that you are doing. Hey stupid, everything that you do at work is company property. Your e-mails can be looked at anytime of the day by anyone who really matters. The company keeps tabs on everything and every page that you look at while you are at work. So don't think that your job is more important than anyone else because they keep tabs on everyone and everything that you are doing. You are not safe from anyone don't try and hide from them they know what you are doing all the time.

This came because the other day I was so tired at work that I was sitting looking at some old building plans at my desk when I realized that I kept dozing off. I couldn't believe it sleeping at work, so ashamed so unacceptable. Then I thought to myself, really come on. I really don't want to start complaining about work because I really enjoy my job. But I was told that there are 168 workable hours in a 7 day time period. Sadly that means that I could be and have been called in to work during any one of the 168 hours during the week. I have a phone that isn't even a year old a nicer flip-phone with a camera fell out of my shirt pocket when I was leaning over a scissor lift that was at the rafters at work. Dropped out of my pocket about thirty feet in the air, not to say that it took a pretty good bounce, sort of like a skydiver whose parachute doesn't open, but it broke in two. I could hear the people talking on the other side of the call but no picture and no more flip rather just always dangling in two pieces. I had to go get a new phone, I told the salesman to not even try I wasn't going to by anything expensive rather durable because the company was not going to reimburse me for my phone that broke at work. So I have this phone that isn't even a year old. Probably in the last year has been turned off a total of 15 minutes. So sometimes I have to manually turn the phone off because you can't hear the person talking on the other side. So I can be called into work anytime of night, day or weekend.

So I found myself sleeping in my office and later I thought who cares, I am actually tired and am not getting enough sleep at home either. I don't know what it is, call me "unrealistic or out of touch" (those on the JNAC might appreciate that) but for some odd reason I can't fall asleep at night or maybe it is just the fact that I like getting maybe 4 to 5 hours of sleep a night. Life sometimes sucks. You run into these situations that you never imagined could happen to you and you thought this should not happen to me I am a good person.

So back to the type of office personnel, I am none of the types mentioned above, rather I am the type that thinks "Damn I might fall asleep at my desk, during work hours, while on the clock, with the office door wide open, but honestly do I care because sometimes that is the only place that I can actually sleep". If you're looking for a reason to fire Paul Goold come by his office on a Wednesday or Thursday at around 11:30 am you won't have to look very hard because his door is going to be wide open and he is probably going to be catching a cat nap at his desk.